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Day 5 – When You Talk With Someone, Observe Your Thoughts

Identification with your mind creates an opaque screen of concepts, labels, images, words, judgments, and definitions that blocks all true relationship. It comes between you and yourself, between you and your fellow man and woman, between you and nature, between you and God.” Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Day 5 – Observe Your Thoughts When You Talk With Someone

Yesterday I’ve challenged You to make eye contact with at least 3 strangers. And to use this as a practice to observe your reactions, emotions and thoughts.

Today we go on a step further. This exercise is all about observing your thoughts when talking to someone.

How To Do It: Today the challenge is to notice your thoughts when You are in a conversation with someone. This means to bring a bit of your awareness on yourself.

Why This Exercise? What usually happens when we talk is that we do not really pay attention to what the person in front is saying.

Depending on the context and the nature of the conversation, we get caught up with the incessant stream of thoughts that arise as a reaction to what that person is saying. Observing your thoughts without judging takes You out of the common symptoms of the “fake” listener:

-“oh, that’s nothing, let me tell You what happened to Me when….”

-“you shouldn’t feel like this”

-“oh, come on, is not that bad”

-“oh, that reminds me of that time when I…”

-“this is so boring. I wonder when can we go eat something”

and so on so forth.

My experience with this:

I’ve written a detailed post about how to really listen, You can check it out here.

I’ve noticed that bringing a part of my awareness on myself while I talk with someone brought me several benefits:

– I tend to get lost in either what the other person is sharing if I find it fascinating, or get lost in my story if I am the one talking passionately about something. Observing my thoughts helps me stay centered and avoid getting lost in either way.

-observing the thoughts even briefly creates a space where I become aware that I am not my mind, nor my thoughts. Since I am the one observing it means there is another entity, the Observer.

This is my experience so far with today’s exercise.

I  am so looking forward to be hearing how it worked for You. Let me know in the comments bellow.

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Stay tuned for tomorrow’s exercise! :)

With all my love,

Raluca

 PS: I love how Echkart Tolle explains what happens when you start to observe your thoughts. “The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not the possessing entity – the thinker. Knowing this enables you to observe the entity. The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated.” (Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now)

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2 thoughts on “Day 5 – When You Talk With Someone, Observe Your Thoughts”

  1. I don’t really understand how to observe my thoughts, maybe because i have spent most of my life controlled by this random thoughts, i notice i have so many reactions in my mind while talking with people and it decreases my confidence whenever i am replying, plus i still have the random thoughts floating so randomly as i am replying, this as been going on for a long time, please explain further and deeper how i can observe this thoughts. God bless.

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    • Hi, thanks for your sharing and question. To help you get detachment from your own thoughts and realise that you are not them, I would suggest you to go through the other exercises of the 30 days challenge to reconnect with your gut feeling. They are all meant to give you small glimpses into what “observing your thoughts” or detachment from your thoughts is. Breathing deeply and consciously during a conversation is a very simple and effective exercise. For further study I strongly recommend Eckhart Tolle’s books “A new earth” and “The power of now”. Take it easy and make baby steps on this path, don’t expect huge results overnight. It’s an ongoing process of becoming more and more aware. Good luck with everything! 🙂

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